Failure, if we try to define it we often result in finding something in our lives that we consider we “failed” and then start to kick ourselves into the dirt. We are generally taught by life at a young age the difference between “Positive” and “Negative”, and most would say that Success is deemed as a positive outcome where Failure would be a negative one.
Most of us take the relationship between failure and negative and label them as bad, which more often than not puts us into a position where we are too scared to try something out of fear of failure. I mean think about it, who wants to feel bad about themselves? This is where we need to stop and take a look at the bigger picture. Surely failing at something that you’ve tried is better than never trying at all?
“Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.” – Denis Waitley
It took me 4 tries over a period of nearly 5 years to give up smoking, and I remember clearly every time I failed I used to beat myself up about it and make myself feel even worse. Then next time it came around to me trying again, it was even harder to do because I had made such a big deal about not being successful in the first place. The reality is my failures showed me ways that didn’t work, and my determination helped me find ways that did!
If you want a bigger example let’s take a look at the author J.K. Rowling, in case you’re not aware of who she is, she wrote the Harry Potter books. Did you know the first 12 major publishers rejected her script? Think about that for a while.
“Failure is so important. We speak about success all the time. It is the ability to resist failure or use failure that often leads to greater success. I’ve met people who don’t want to try for fear of failing.” – J.K. Rowling
Fear of failure should never define our actions; it should only strengthen our determination to complete them.